Well it is that time again. I got an itch to write for my blog again. I want to do another What I heard on Sunday entry.
I like these entries because they always seem to speak to the heart. And I mean straight to the heart of what matters. This week we covered Jesus' commandment, "Love each other as I have loved you."
I found this homily especially good because I was struggling to love the guy behind me who insisted on tickling and agitating his toddler throughout the entire mass. I mean yes better than the crying but, still VERY disruptive. And I am not one that thinks kids should be removed from mass. I just think there is time for tickling and time for worship. And don't get me started on the woman that pulled out her phone to let her kids play while mass was going and.... you see? Hard to be loving when I was being perfectly judgmental. So I missed some of what was said but, I did hear a good portion of the homily.
Anyway. Our priest talked about marriage and the relationships that fail because we fail to love each other as Jesus has loved us. He talked about the many couples he has counseled and how it boiled down to one or both spouses didn't feel loved by the other. Some, broke marriage vows; some just never said, "I love you." All with the same result-- they wanted to end a "loveless" relationship. And it made me really question whether or not my own spouse knows how much I love him.
When I hang up the phone with him, I always say, "I love you." Always. I never miss the chance to tell him. But, I wonder if it seems watered down because it is habit. Well, it isn't. I mean it with every ounce of me. I love this man as much as anyone could ever love another person. I love him as Jesus has loved me-endlessly.
So, what I heard on Sunday is this: Love your spouse. Find out how this person perceives Love. Is it with gifts, food, intimacy, words, actions? Show them you love them in the way they can understand it and hear you. Never pass up a moment to love your spouse. Get your message across. Do not take for granted that your spouse knows that you love them. Make it their truth.